In this post, we explore 10 reasons why we should celebrate masculinity and why the terms “toxic masculinity” and “positive masculinity” need to go.
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Have you noticed that today the terms terms “toxic masculinity” and “positive masculinity” are used all the time without even questioning what they imply? Women mostly use the term toxic masculinity to describe men who mistreat them, and there has been a huge call for more positive masculinity everywhere in the media. The fact is that when a man is mistreating women that has nothing to do with his masculinity but with him just being a bad person. A lot of women and men have been trained to see masculinity as the problem, whereas when a woman behaves badly we never blame her femininity but rather her background, her trauma, or her parents who didn’t raise her properly, etc.
But why aren’t we questioning this double standard? Well, I guess for some women it’s much more comfortable not having to take responsibility for their actions. It’s so funny that when it comes to our life perspective it’s always “me, me, me” first but when we have to take responsibility the blame game and “you, you, you” start straight away. And let me be clear, I am not saying that women are bad or all women are acting in a certain way, but there are certain tendencies that we have to be aware of and very honest about, even if it hurts.
My goal isn’t to divide but to bring us all closer together again. Modern dating isn’t working, it might be fun for a certain period, but in the end, it makes us all miserable and lonely. So men and women equally have to ask themselves some tough questions, stop the comparison and constant competition and fully embrace each other again with all the beautiful qualities each bring to the table.
I completely get it, some points in this post will be triggering for you. It took me a while to be able to take these ideas onboard without getting defensive or completely closing up. Again, my intention isn’t to hurt you but to be honest AF with you, so you can work trough what’s keeping you away from a fullfilling relationship with a great man, so let’s dive into it.
How modern feminism is hurting women
Modern feminism has taught most women not to take any accountability for their bad behavior. We live in a world where every immoral behavior is rewarded and celebrated by men and women. Posting nudes, promiscuity, gossip, being selfish, disrespect, the list goes on and on. This constant praising of women and fear of criticism has left most of us unable to self-reflect or take responsibility for our actions, we feel entitled, and social media has conditioned us to be hyper-self-centered. When it comes to finding a partner, all of us want to date the 1% of high-value men. However, we don’t take into consideration that a high-value man will set boundaries and hold us accountable for our poor decisions. That’s when instead of taking on the criticism and reflecting on it, some of us then project our negative emotions onto the man and call him a narcissist or a toxic masculine man.
So when most women want the 1% high-value masculine man, but can’t handle his “toxic masculinity” when he sets boundaries or expects them to bring something to the table, we have a problem. Most women are praised every day for everything they do, and they lose touch with reality. If you want to date a high-value man, you better make sure to also be a high-value woman who outcompetes all the other women who are standing in line to date this man. No one denies that there are some questionable men with extremely bad behavior out there, but again, this shouldn’t be blamed on their masculinity but on their personality. If you are with a man who treats you badly, then you have to leave, no one questions that!
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What’s the solution?
The solution to the whole problem is that women and men return to good morals and values, and accept that men and women are equal in value but have different abilities and talents. Being a good man or woman takes a lot of discipline because temptations are high in all areas of life and some men and women are definitely “toxic”. But qualifying masculinity as toxic or as positive masculinity isn’t the right way to go. Masculinity is masculinity, period. Just like no one ever writes an article about “positive femininity” because it would imply that femininity in itself is bad, the same should be true for masculinity.
My aim is to foster unity and bring us all back together. Modern dating often isn’t effective because it emphasizes superficial interactions and an overabundance of choices, leading to shallow connections and emotional burnout. The focus on short-term gratification and lack of genuine communication leave many feeling lonely and frustrated. Women end up with weak men they don’t respect and men aren’t taught how to be masculine anymore, So we have to ask ourselves tough questions, face reality, and do real self-work that requires change and effort instead of just meditating and trying to attract our dream life by doing nothing. Get our Journey to Self-Discovery ebook and work on self-growth and personal development to become a high-value woman.
Masculinity is important for every man and needed in our society. It should be celebrated by women, and men have to return to embrace their masculinity and not feel bad about it. Man are humans, and need to be respected as such.
10 Reasons Why We Should Celebrate Masculinity
Explore the 10 reasons why we should celebrate masculinity, and why masculinity is important.
1. Men build our society
What is masculinity in today’s society? On social media, you can find countless clips where women talk about how men aren’t needed in our society and how they can do everything on their own. This is completely ridiculous and untrue. No woman could build the roads we are driving on, the houses we live in, or do the hard physical work to produce most of our food. It’s time that we start seeing again how men are building all the things we need to live our comfortable lives and that this work is everything but comfortable. We should celebrate masculinity for its physical and mental strength and hard labor, rather than denying that they are useful in society.
2. Men protect and provide
Most of all we should celebrate masculinity because it naturally wants to protect and provide. That doesn’t mean that women can’t look after themselves but that women should start to appreciate again that men want to take care of them. This isn’t an attack on our autonomy, but the way men express their love.
3. They offer emotional stability
High-value men, who have high self-control and are emotionally stable, are the perfect ying to the yang of women. This is why when women and men are in a healthy relationship they thrive, because they balance each other out and make each other better. For men, our emotional sides can be very helpful, because we offer them emotional support, and a place to be vulnerable without being judged. And when women lose themselves in their emotions, men can offer stability and a more rational way of thinking and decision-making.
4. Men are problem-solvers
Whether it’s at home, in everyday life, or the professional world, innovations, men are problem solvers, and we should celebrate them for it because they do everything to make our lives easier and comfortable. They thrive when they can help us find the solution to a problem, and we should thank them for it.
5. They have physical strength and endurance
Men’s physical strength and endurance are something that is needed in our society to do the hard work and is also admirable and inspires them to live a healthy and fit lifestyle. Working out and being fit is essential for any masculine man to live a thriving life. Men’s physical strength can be scary but as women, we should be grateful for it because we need strong men to protect us, create a comfortable life for us, and make us feel safe.
6. They are great leaders
Men’s ability to be great leaders is one of the main reasons why we should celebrate masculinity. And no, that doesn’t mean that women can’t be great leaders too. We have to stop seeing everything as a competition between men and women and start being a team again, where both parties are valued and appreciated for their unique strengths. Men are naturally great leaders because they are rational, assertive and decisive which makes them highly productive and great in managing and guiding others. They don’t feel the need to be liked by everyone and they are good in taking on criticism to improve their work.
7. Self-sacrifice
There is nothing more admirable in men than their willingness to self-sacrifice for their loved ones. Most women have never reflected on how much strength and love it takes a man to be willing to sacrifice his life for his family. “Women and children first”, is taken for granted and we hardly ever think of how tough this must be for a man.
8. Discipline and determination
The reason why we should celebrate masculinity is that it is disciplined and determined. Masculine, high-quality men want to get things done and aren’t distracted by the temptations of life. They stand by the basics, good food, exercise, sleep, no drugs, and living a life true to good values and morals. Undisciplined men aren’t masculine and we should stay far away from them because they don’t only harm themselves but also us as women and our society.
9. Confidence
One of the most attractive masculine qualities is confidence. This is also the reason why masculinity is important for every man. If you aren’t confident in business, dating, or your personal life, your life as a man will be tough and you will get run over by everyone. Confidence is highly attractive because it shows that a man is grounded, knows what he wants and deserves, and isn’t afraid to set boundaries. No one is attracted to a needy, people-pleasing man who isn’t his authentic self but playing a role. When we are around confident men, we feel safe and comfortable.
10. Why we should celebrate masculinity: Men are great role models
If you wonder what is the role of masculinity in today’s society, it should be to be a great role model for boys. Working as a teacher for many years, I know that the one thing boys need is masculine role models. Don’t get me wrong, women are naturally better caretakers of children than men. But today most of the boys are surrounded by their mums, their female friends, female teachers, and caretakers all the time. They lack masculine role models who teach them how to become masculine men, who are disciplined, have high self-control, prioritize physical fitness, are emotionally stable, and treat women with respect and love.
What I have observed time and time again is weak boys, with entitled behavior and no discipline. This is not what our society needs. So we desperately need men to step up and be great masculine role models again. In school we put too much focus on things like “the future is female” or “accepting any sexual orientation” but no one ever speaks to the boys. Their unique needs and wishes are completely forgotten in our society because we still think the “patriarchy” is ruling our world, so why should we focus on the most “privileged group” in school? There is a generation of forgotten boys growing up right now, and this should be deeply worrying and saddening to all of us.
Conclusion
In conclusion, our society desperately needs to change its view on masculinity. The term toxic masculinity needs to go and both women and men have to be accountable for their behaviors return to good morals and values and stay true to them. The 10 reasons why masculinity is important should be a wake-up call to everyone, especially to ensure that the forgotten boys of the young generations will have proper role models and the chance to build a thriving, healthy life. If anyone still wonders why masculinity is important for every man I challenge you to be real and open-minded for a minute, look around you with open eyes, and see what’s happening to the men and boys who we love.
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