5 Love languages explained: Are you curious to learn more about your and your partner’s love languages? This post will help you understand how you and your loved one receive and show love best.
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By now everyone must have heard about love languages and the huge impact they have on how we keep a relationship strong and happy. The love language theory suggests that there are 5 ways of receiving and showing love and that everyone has their preference for how we like to love and be loved (which doesn’t necessarily need to be in the same way!). How do you like to show and receive love?
Love languages explained
Acts of service love language
People who have this love language prefer to receive or show love through acts of service. The phrase “actions mean more than words” probably is engrained deep in their hearts. Helping out with house chores, making breakfast for their loved ones, or organizing and making everyday life easier could be examples of how people with this love language show their love and affection. And acts of service can certainly help you improve your relationship! Not trying to feed any stereotypes but men often show love through acts of service as they like to solve problems, be useful, and be pragmatic in a relationship.
Quality time love language explained
Who doesn’t enjoy quality time with their partners? For some of us, making time for our partners in our busy day-to-day is a huge proof of our love, especially when we are overwhelmed with work, kids, social commitments, etc. Making your partner a priority in the everyday craziness is certainly a challenge but also important to improve your relationship. Time to connect, have deep conversations, try new activities together, and not only veg out in front of the TV every day certainly takes a lot of effort but many studies have shown that one way to keep your relationship strong and happy is spending quality time together regularly.
Words of affirmation love language
“I love you” is the magical three words that go such a long way! Many people need to hear words of affirmation to feel loved. For them it’s pretty straightforward, just say what you feel and everyone will be happy! Giving heartfelt compliments, reassuring our partners, and telling them how much we appreciate and love them is the strength of individuals with this love language. Everyone needs to hear sometimes that they are loved, that their partner sees all the things they are doing daily, and a little “thank you” or “I appreciate you” is always a way to improve your relationship.
Physical touch love language
It’s not all about SEX baby! Yes, physical intimacy is a way to show your partner that you love them, but there are many other ways to touch your partner to show them your love. People with this love language are the ones who typically introduce themselves with “I am a hugger”, they love to randomly touch people they love affectionately, and they are master cuddlers always eager to be close to their loved ones. Physical touch is a must for us as a human species to the point where babies can not survive without it. Physical touch is certainly a way how to keep a relationship strong and happy for romantic partners.
Receiving gifts love languages explained
Out of all the love languages, this one seems to be the most controversial, as a person who expects material gifts to feel loved could be seen as shallow or superficial. But this is not the case at all. When you receive a gift it is not only about the actual gift you get, but it shows that your partner thought about you, wants to make you happy by surprising you, went out of the way to find something you like, and invested time and money only to see the little spark in your eyes! What a wonderful way to receive and give love! If you need some inspiration on romantic gifts, check out this post:
Best romantic gift ideas for boyfriend
How to improve your relationship by using love languages
But how do these love languages affect us in relationships and how can you use them to make our relationship flourish? The first and most important step is certainly that you and your partner are aware of the ways you prefer to show and receive love. A great way to do so is this 5 love languages quiz: 5 love languages quiz free
After establishing our love languages it’s time to learn and make an effort to love our partner the way they need to be loved. If the way we give and receive love match that should be an easy thing to do, but some of us might have to learn new and unfamiliar ways to show our love. For those who are feeling a bit lost, I have put together a few quick and easy ideas for each preference.
Easy ideas to show love according to different love languages:
Acts of service love language ideas
- open the door for someone (I mean who doesn’t miss old-school classy behavior!)
- help with household chores
- cook a meal and make it romantic (breakfast in bed, light some candles, music, etc.)
- fill the gas tank
- walk the dog
Quality time love language ideas
- plan regular date nights (Switch off that TV!!)
- cook a meal together
- try a new activity
- switch off the phones when spending time together
- Play a game. I recommend the conversation cards game “Where Should We Begin” from Esther Perel (you will find out so many things about your partner, it’s so much fun and an amazing way to connect!)
Words of affirmation love language ideas
- leave post-it notes with words of love and appreciation in random places
- write a loving text message regularly
- write and send a love letter
- leave a note on the mirror
- always speak highly of your partner around family and friends (even when they aren’t present)
Physical touch love language ideas
- hug, hug, hug
- great your partner at the door with a hug and a kiss
- touch your partner randomly when having a conversation
- give your partner a massage
- hold hands
- make love
Receiving gifts love language ideas
- create a photo book for your partner
- get them a sexy perfume here
- send them a little surprise at work (lunch, flowers, some chocolates)
- make special occasions a big deal (plan a whole birthday week with surprises and activities)
- buy an “I was thinking of you” gift
- plan a surprise to create memories together
Check out my favorite romantic gifts here
Now you have all the instruments to use your newfound knowledge about the 5 love languages and build a happy and healthy relationship with your partner where you both feel safe and loved.
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